Pam is an adoptee herself, who has

successfully reunited thousands of

birth families during her 25+ year career.



My name is Pamela Slaton and I am an adoptee who, with scant information, discovered my birth parents over two decades ago. When I first began my search, there were barely any services available to those looking for clues. After discovering my birth parents, I started volunteering my experiences to local adoptee support groups … READ MORE ABOUT PAMELA.



Pam is an Investigative Genealogist, DNA Expert and Adoption Reunion Specialist.  She believes one of her greatest gifts that enables her to successfully reunite families is her own adoption story, along with her strong intuition and remembering to trust her “gut”.

Pam’s business focuses on locating birth families and helping to facilitate adoption reunions. Her area of expertise lies in having the ability to combine the search of historical records along with contemporary data utilizing DNA analysis. 

She has been doing this type of research for the last 25+ years.

Pam works as a “no find no fee” searcher. She never charges any upfront fees.

If Pam is successful in locating the person that she is hired to find, her fee is $2,500.00.

Pam provides a written contract to all her clients. It is important to know that Pam does not use assistants or junior researchers. Her clients’ personal data, history, and documentation remain solely between her and them. 

The privacy of her clients is extremely important to Pam and is one of her main concerns while working on a case.




My own personal adoption journey has taken me to places I never imagined.  

From my very first media appearance on VH1 and meeting Darryl McDaniels, famed Rapper of Run DMC, to sharing the stage with Oprah Winfrey, and most recently assisting world renowned psychic medium Tyler Henry during his Netflix series to help unravel his family mystery.   





When I first called Pamela she impressed me right away.”

I am always honored and delighted to tell others about my experience with Pamela.”

“Working with and getting to know Pam has been and is one of the most incredible experiences of my life.”

Pamela connected me with my Birth Mother. I was told by two other agencies that there was little hope for me in finding her and that she is probably dead.”

“You are wonderful, I’m glad Darryl found you. You were soooo nurturing, loving, and caring to him but then he’s easy to love.”

I am a certified family law attorney who has conducted successful adoption searches for more than 30 years (and worked unsuccessfully on my own for 35 years). Pam found my birth family in a matter of weeks, even though my mother used a fake name.”

I came to Pam after reading an article in our local Sierra Vista, AZ newspaper in August 2009.”

“Pamela Slaton helped me answer the biggest question that burdened me my entire life. Where did I come from?”

“I cannot recommend any researcher more highly than Pamela O’Brian.”

“After very little success over many years of trying to locate my birth parents, Pam was recommended to me. Not only was she always professional, but she was also one of the most concerned and caring people I encountered in my search.”

“I was born to a teenage mom in September of 1962. My biological father left after a few days choosing to go back to his wife . I’ve never met my father. Fast forward 59 years. I was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I had made attempts to find my birth farther solely for the purpose of asking him “ the question “, did you ever wonder what happened to me? I had more reason than ever to seek closure , but more importantly was to find out if there is a history in my family of my cancer. It would help my daughters and grandkids prospectively. I finally decided to take the leap and engage Pam to solve my lifetime mystery. I was shocked to hear from Pam in 2 days. She located my siblings. They chose not to make contact with me which I understood. It turns out that my siblings despised our father and wanted to expel all memories of him. I got it. I cannot begin to tell you the magnitude of relief I felt hearing that me biological father’s lack of contact with me wasn’t exclusively channeled to me. He was not a nice person. Pam came back with not just locating for long last family, she provided a whole history of the life I never knew about. I could tell she had done this before because she guided me carefully through every step and told me that these reunions don’t always work out well. She had conversations with the family I’ve never known and broke the news to me tactfully. I have had conversations with people in the same situation as me over the years. I’ve shared the same reasons for not traveling down this road. Don’t know what reaction I will get. Scorn or shunning from the family. Cost. All I can tell you is I threw out all those b********it reasons and did it. Best decision I made in my life. I cannot convey the amount of relief I felt. As my disease is consuming my body and my time on this earth is short I feel so much better that “it wasn’t me”. Also, my siblings were doing great despite my father’s lack of parenting skills. If you are out there on the fence making excuses for not enlisting Pam’s help you don’t know what you are missing. She helped to channel my lifelong resentment in to and act of gratitude. I had prepared my speeches for the day I might meet my biological dad. They weren’t nice. My last speech was to thank him for making me the father I am today. Unfortunately I never had that conversation as he passed a few years ago. Don’t be afraid of these encounters ending well. They only end up differently then what we envision it. It appears to be a leap of faith but it’s really closure, which all of us are seeking. You won’t be disappointed if you follow her directions. Thank you Pam”

Joe Lindenberg

In this poignant and heartwarming narrative, renowned genealogist Pamela Slaton tells the most striking stories from her incredibly successful career of reconnecting adoptees with long-lost birth parents

After a traumatic reunion with her own birth mother, Pamela Slaton realized two things: That she wanted to help other adoptees have happier reunions with their birth families, and that she had the unique skill to do so – a strong ability to find what others could not.