Dear Pamela,
Thank you, thank you, thank you yet one more time for making one of the sweetest reunions ever take place. We’ve just returned from Atlanta where we had a warm and wonderful reunion with Elizabeth who brought her 15 year old daughter along. We held it in a Marriott Hotel’s conference room near with roses and pictures and hugs and kisses and food and tears and laughter and stories and love. The Marriott staff also sent up a bottle of champagne! They look like mother and daughter! I am so glad that in light of Sydnee’s slow but steady decline into the darkness of dementia that you were able to help us make this happen before it was too late. I truly would have been lost without you.
With love and deep, abiding gratitude,
-Lino |
Two days before my 37th birthday, i got a call from "pam"-who claimed they had an adoptee they were helping someone search for. I knew instantly this was my birthmother on the phone with the woman who identified herself as pam.
All went well, i was responsive, and my birthmother was all to pleased to say the least.- this was in August 2005.
after finding me after all these years, my birth mother - jan- who is the most unselfish person i know, told me about my medical history, and that breast cancer ran in the family. With knowing more and more everyday, by talking on the phone, and e-mails, we became friends and i was finding out information i never had before.
i made all kinds of doctors appointments, and soon found out from a mammogram ( one that my doctors said i didnt' even need yet, cause i wasnt' at the age they thought appropriate) --that i indeed had a lump - so small, they said " would'nt have been detected for years, without the mammogram". this was in November. December comes, and i am scheduled for a Mastectomy. due to the strong history- from what my birth mother has told me- the mastectomy happens the first week in January,2006.
Now i am having Chemo treatments to make sure all the cancer is gone. If it had not been for my birthmother jan, i would have not had the chance to live. They could have found the cancer in 4 years or so- when i was actually going to have the required mammogram from the obgyn- and who knows how big, or what stage they would have found it in.-and how long i would have to live with it, or even worse. I have 2 children, girls, 8 & 9. and with the knowledge i have now, from my birthmother, i am able to guide my children into directions that would have never been taken, for i had no information what so ever about my medical history before.
Again. without the love and unselfishness of this wonderful woman , my life has been shaken upside down,and turned all around. for the better- for the much better, she is someone i hold dear to my heart, and meeting her would be a joy beyond dictionary word capacity. this woman has changed my life. I owe her my love, my adulthood, and my well being. i will respect & love this woman unconditionally forever.
and that is my story!
Chrystine >^..^< |
