My heart is so completely touched by my client. Joe also knew my brother from our small town in Queens, NY. He wrote a testimony for my website that blew me away. He realized that having your answers can be healing even without a reunion. I am hopeful Joe's words will...

Loyalty, Guilt and the desire to know. I cannot tell you how many people have said the following words to me "I cannot search until my adoptive parents pass away". The mindset is that Adoptees feel that if they show a desire to know their birth family, it sends a...

TRUST the DNA. I have been working on a case that I've gone round and round on. I believed the birth father to be a man who was 59 years old. The birth mother was 16. I could not reconcile this intellectually. I doubted my own work even though I spent hours...

Genie in a bottle. When I was a little girl, I would bury some of my mom’s glass bottles hoping that a Genie would appear inside one. I would gather a few friends and we would search for buried Genie bottles with scarves that we fastened to our hair to look more like...

Learning that you are the product of rape is a really hard thing to reconcile within. I was told by my birth mother that this was how I was conceived. It rocked me to my core. It turned out not to be true once I received the results of my first dna test, but I had...

Just finished a case that relied entirely on trusting my client’s DNA. He had his original birth certificate as well as non-identifying information. He was frustrated because nothing seemed to fit. Since I've been doing this work for a long time, the one thing that I...

Had the best phone call with a Birth Father last night. Of course, he was skeptical of my call, but listened anyway. I explained I was doing a family search and wanted to ask a few questions. I asked him about a girl with the name of .... and he perked up and stated...

Searching for family requires the patience of Job; the curiosity of a cat; the stubbornness of a mule; the eyesight of an eagle; to be blessed with the luck of the Irish and have the ability and stamina of a camel to go long hours without food or drink - Author Unknown

As work is my therapy, I am giddy that I just finished a complex case. The birth mother used a completely fake name, and the DNA was less than desirable. If the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same things over and over, I am insane! BUT it works every...

I just learned that my birth mother, Lucille passed away. I'm numb, sad and angry all at the same time. I had carried this Ghost, my birth mother, in my heart my entire life, through all of the pain that I endured during my search and subsequent contact with her....

Hoping you are all hanging in there. I wanted to pop in and give you an update on my birth mother who, as you may remember, suddenly appeared at my front door after my first contact was made 24 years prior. I recently contacted her about doing a DNA test so that she...

Thinking about how people reaching out to their birth family might be perceived. I have watched countless movies and tv programs that portray the searching Adoptee as an obsessive, ill-intended, and unstable individual. How very untrue! Most of those searching are led...