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Search for Closure

Search for Closure

My heart is so completely touched by my client. Joe also knew my brother from our small town in Queens, NY. He wrote a testimony for my website that blew me away. He realized that having your answers can be healing even without a reunion. I am hopeful Joe's words will...

No Reason For Guilt

No Reason For Guilt

Loyalty, Guilt and the desire to know. I cannot tell you how many people have said the following words to me "I cannot search until my adoptive parents pass away". The mindset is that Adoptees feel that if they show a desire to know their birth family, it sends a...

Trust The DNA

Trust The DNA

TRUST the DNA. I have been working on a case that I've gone round and round on. I believed the birth father to be a man who was 59 years old. The birth mother was 16. I could not reconcile this intellectually. I doubted my own work even though I spent hours...

My Genie

My Genie

Genie in a bottle. When I was a little girl, I would bury some of my mom’s glass bottles hoping that a Genie would appear inside one. I would gather a few friends and we would search for buried Genie bottles with scarves that we fastened to our hair to look more like...

We Are All Born with a Purpose

We Are All Born with a Purpose

Learning that you are the product of rape is a really hard thing to reconcile within. I was told by my birth mother that this was how I was conceived. It rocked me to my core. It turned out not to be true once I received the results of my first dna test, but I had...

Think Outside of the Box

Think Outside of the Box

Just finished a case that relied entirely on trusting my client’s DNA. He had his original birth certificate as well as non-identifying information. He was frustrated because nothing seemed to fit. Since I've been doing this work for a long time, the one thing that I...

Surprise!  You’re a Dad!

Surprise!  You’re a Dad!

Had the best phone call with a Birth Father last night. Of course, he was skeptical of my call, but listened anyway. I explained I was doing a family search and wanted to ask a few questions. I asked him about a girl with the name of .... and he perked up and stated...

One of My Favorite Quotes

One of My Favorite Quotes

Searching for family requires the patience of Job; the curiosity of a cat; the stubbornness of a mule; the eyesight of an eagle; to be blessed with the luck of the Irish and have the ability and stamina of a camel to go long hours without food or drink - Author Unknown

Never Give Up!

Never Give Up!

As work is my therapy, I am giddy that I just finished a complex case. The birth mother used a completely fake name, and the DNA was less than desirable. If the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same things over and over, I am insane! BUT it works every...

A Sad Farewell to My Birth Mother

A Sad Farewell to My Birth Mother

I just learned that my birth mother, Lucille passed away. I'm numb, sad and angry all at the same time. I had carried this Ghost, my birth mother, in my heart my entire life, through all of the pain that I endured during my search and subsequent contact with her....

Nov 19, 2020

Nov 19, 2020

Hoping you are all hanging in there. I wanted to pop in and give you an update on my birth mother who, as you may remember, suddenly appeared at my front door after my first contact was made 24 years prior. I recently contacted her about doing a DNA test so that she...

Aug 21, 2020

Aug 21, 2020

Thinking about how people reaching out to their birth family might be perceived. I have watched countless movies and tv programs that portray the searching Adoptee as an obsessive, ill-intended, and unstable individual. How very untrue! Most of those searching are led...

In this poignant and heartwarming narrative, renowned genealogist Pamela Slaton tells the most striking stories from her incredibly successful career of reconnecting adoptees with long-lost birth parents

After a traumatic reunion with her own birth mother, Pamela Slaton realized two things: That she wanted to help other adoptees have happier reunions with their birth families, and that she had the unique skill to do so – a strong ability to find what others could not.